Feeling indecisive when it comes to our relationships could be because you we are uncertain about making bigger commitments and losing our independence.
Healthy relationships don’t seek to control or take something away like freedom and space they actually enhance your experience of yourself and another because they build a stable base from which to go out into your individual worlds to create.
It’s the coming home to that foundation in a healthy relationship whether you live together or not that relaxes our human survival defense and protection mechanisms so we can relax into and experiencing a deeper sense of belonging.
Reflecting on the quality and direction of our relationships can give us a greater perspective about the ways our connections with others enhance our lives. We often are afraid of taking our relationships to the next level of intimacy because we are afraid of how our lives will have to change. Rather than fearing a negative outcome, we can choose to be more proactive in creating the kinds of relationships we desire.
We can then be sure we aren’t losing ourselves in the process because we are creating relationships that allow us to retain our independence and identity. Choosing to approach your relationships with a clear understanding of what you want will allow you to ease your feelings of indecisiveness and be more proactive in your interactions.
Vanessa Auditore and Daily OM